"Are You Ready to Take Responsibility for Your Life? 5 Steps to Get Started"

Are you at a cause or effect as to what's going on in your world?

Do you make excuses vs going out and getting results?

Are you acting or pretending that you're not responsible for your feelings, your finances, career, your relationship and your life?

I don't blame you, it's far easier in the short term to blame someone else than to choose responsibility, but how's that going for you so far? If you continue with this strategy where will you be in 5 years time? where will your family be? what won't you have achieved?

The good news is you get to choose how to change this, the choice is yours, you can take the red pill and step outside, or take the blue pill and continue to experience the illusion.

" Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose ones attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" Viktor E. Frankl

Today I'm going to share five steps, so you can begin to take responsibility for everything in your life.

To create any type of change in your world, you first need to take responsibility.

If you're at effect of what's going in your world, this is you saying that somebody else is to blame for what is happening or someone else's makes you feel that way, or every single external event is making you feel bad and holding you back. This is outsourcing responsibility to someone else and is a sure fire way to remain stuck.

However, if you decide to be at cause, you get to choose how you feel, you will be responsible for that, notice how much more choice and control this gives you, how empowering this feels.

A really extreme example of this is Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor. His famous book Man's Search for Meaning tells the story of how he survived the holocaust, by choosing to find meaning in his experience, living his life on the cause side of the equation despite the horrific circumstances he found himself. Taking responsibility for how he felt along with the meaning that he placed on everything.

Nothing has meaning except the meaning that we give it.

It's really easy to justify and dress up the reasons why we can't do something. It’s far easier and convenient to be at effect, as we get to blame someone else, be the victim, be rescued by others, however the external isn't the problem, "they" or "it" won't even be worrying about what you're concerned about, they will be gone tomorrow, however your problem won't be.

Studies have shown that the person who can find a way, persist through obstacles use the challenge as a stepping stone will have a much easier and fulfilling life in the long term than the person who says "this is too hard, makes excuses, seeks to justify everything away, making it everybody else's fault, but their own.

So if you're not getting the results you are looking for here's the five steps to take to move you from the cause side to the effect side of the equation

And this is going to take a bit of honesty and deep reflection, though it's the only way to create some lasting change.

1. Get curious, create awareness around the story that you're telling yourself

2. Take an honest look at the results that you're not getting in your world

3. Write down or say out loud the sentence "I would do it, but..............." and whatever comes after the word but is you justifying the reason why you won't do what it is that you need to do

4. Now you're going to drop that story, drop it completely, because there's now a gap between stimulus and response and that's where you get to change the story

5. Which is step five, whatever's left in that void, you get to fill with an action or a decision and give it a new meaning.

Some I am statements will also come in useful ;

"I am going to take responsibility"

"I am going to choose what I focus on"

" I am going to decide to be at cause and dump the story"

Notice how this is coming from a place of self-love, compassion and self-advocacy, which is a really powerful place to make decisions from because it's within you at your core as opposed to being external, out there, which ultimately leads to self abandonment.

So all that's left is for you to make a decision, choose which story you now tell yourself and how you respond.

So what are you going to choose today the red pill or the blue pill?

And to help make that first step easier, I've got a complimentary thinking profile tool that you can download in the link below, get curious around your thinking, help to identify those gaps where you might need some support.

If you're someone who wants to take responsibility for their life and create transformational change, go ahead and click the link below, I'll see you on the other side.

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