Discovering Your True Goals: Uncovering the Hidden Patterns Behind Your Goals
- Ben Getley
- Jan 16
- 2 min read
Welcome to a new episode of self-discovery where we dive deep into the often unspoken truths that shape our desires and aspirations.
Join us as we explore the distinction between safe problems and risky problems and how this understanding can lead to profound personal transformation.
Distinguishing Between Safe and Risky Problems
Safe problems are goals that appear logical and socially acceptable. These might include aspirations like being more disciplined or saving money. While these goals seem commendable, they often mask deeper, more emotional issues. These safe problems are comfortable because they don’t necessitate confronting uncomfortable feelings.
In contrast, risky problems encompass the real emotional truths that we often protect ourselves from. Phrases like “I’m scared of being seen” or “I’m scared of failing” highlight the fears that lie beneath our surface-level goals. While safe problems may keep us busy and provide an illusion of progress, it’s the risky problems that offer the potential for true freedom and growth.
The Role of Our Inner Child and Protectors
John Bradshaw's work on the inner child, reveals that our childhood experiences shape our emotional truths. These truths can be too raw to confront, leading us to remain on the surface of our emotional landscape. Protective mechanisms arise in response to our emotional fears. For instance, the efficient problem solver may rush to fix issues to avoid emotional discomfort.
These protectors are not flaws but rather strategies that our psyche employs to keep us safe. For example someone may want to become more disciplined. Upon deeper reflection, this desire often masks fears of failure and judgment, revealing that what we truly seek is safety, belonging, and self-trust.
Reflection Exercise
To help connect with our deeper emotional truths, taking the time for introspection allows individuals to uncover the emotions they may be protecting themselves from.
Acknowledging and thanking the parts of ourselves that seek protection can lead to greater self-awareness and healing.
Conclusion: Key Takeaways
As we wrap up this enlightening episode, it’s clear that understanding the difference between safe and risky problems is crucial for personal growth. By recognising the deeper truths behind our goals, we can move towards a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Embracing our vulnerabilities and acknowledging our emotional truths can empower us to take meaningful steps toward our desires. Remember, you are exactly where you need to be on your journey of self-discovery.
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