Embracing Your Inner Child: A Journey to Emotional Truth.
- Ben Getley
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In the fast pace of modern life, many of us drift away from our emotional core — the part of us that still carries our earliest experiences, fears, and truths. This part of you never disappeared. It simply went quiet. And when it goes quiet, it often shows up in other ways: procrastination, overthinking, people‑pleasing, conflict avoidance, or shutting down when things feel too much.
In my latest podcast episode, I explore the inner child — not as a concept, but as a living emotional reality inside you. When you understand this part of yourself, your patterns begin to make sense. And when they make sense, they can finally soften.
Understanding the Inner Child
Counselor and self help author John Bradshaw described the inner child as the emotional core of who you are — the part of you that once felt deeply loved, expressed freely, and moved through the world without armour. Internal Family Systems calls this part an “exile,” carrying the burdens of early experiences. Attachment theory adds that your inner child learned how safe it was to express emotion, how reliable connection felt, and how much of you was “allowed.”
Your inner child isn’t childish.
It’s original.
Unfiltered.
Unprotected.
And it still influences how you respond today.
How Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Patterns
Many of the behaviours we judge ourselves for are actually protective strategies learned early in life.
Procrastination often comes from a child who once felt overwhelmed or afraid of getting things wrong.
Avoiding conflict can come from a child who learned that expressing emotion wasn’t safe.
People‑pleasing often comes from a child who earned love through compliance.
Shutting down can come from a child who learned that emotions weren’t welcome.
When you feel stuck, it’s rarely your adult self resisting.
It’s the younger part of you trying to stay safe.
Recognising this changes everything. You stop fighting yourself and start understanding yourself.
An Example
In my financial coaching practice, I once worked with a client who overspent and avoided looking at his bank account. He carried deep shame around money — but shame wasn’t the real issue.
Underneath it, we found a child who grew up in chaos.
A child who never felt secure.
A child who learned that money was unpredictable and overwhelming.
He wasn’t irresponsible.
He was protected.
Until that child feels safe, no budget, spreadsheet, or financial plan will change the pattern. This is where true transformation begins — not with discipline, but with compassion.
Exercises to Reconnect With Your Inner Child
Here are three gentle practices you can use to begin reconnecting with this part of yourself:
1. Reflection
Bring to mind a recent moment of resistance or fear.
Ask yourself: How old is the part of me that feels this?
Let the answer come naturally.
2. Visualisation
Close your eyes and imagine placing a gentle hand on your younger self’s shoulder.
Say internally: I’m here now. You’re safe with me.
Notice what softens.
3. Affirmations
Use simple, grounding statements such as:
I am safe.
My feelings are valid.
I can meet myself with compassion.
These practices aren’t about fixing anything. They’re about listening.
Key Takeaways
Your inner child still influences your adult decisions and emotional reactions.
“Stuck” behaviours are learned safety strategies, not personal flaws.
Emotional triggers often come from younger parts of you stepping forward.
Meeting your inner child with compassion creates space for healing.
Small daily practices can create profound emotional shifts.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the inner child?
It’s the part of you that holds your early emotional experiences — your authentic, unfiltered self.
How does the inner child impact adulthood?
It shapes your reactions, fears, and patterns based on what you learned about safety, love, and expression as a child.
How can I reconnect with my inner child?
Through reflection, visualisation, and daily affirmations that build emotional safety and awareness.
Listen to the Full Episode
If this resonates, the you can listen to the full conversation below, this goes deeper into how your inner child shapes your emotional truth — and how reconnecting with this part of yourself can transform your life.
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